Why do Youth Ministers have Big Egos?

I was in a meeting today, talking about youth ministry across Sydney and someone said, ‘I’ve worked with senior ministers in Sydney before and I thought they had big egos, but that’s nothing compared to what I’ve seen in youth ministry!
Ouch

Are they right?

My first thought was that youth ministers have a lot more power than a senior minister over their own ministry. A senior minister is fairly limited in what they can change – they have to have a service, probably on Sunday, they have to have a sermon, songs, probably communion; they have to run a church council meeting, call their church what it’s been called in the past (St. Rahabs, Eastern Suburbs Evangelical Reformed Community church etc).

But a youth minister – well they can do what they like – they decide when to meet (Friday night, Sunday morning, Sunday night, Wednesday night), they decide what to include in the program (games? Bible talk? Singing? A camp? Lunchtime group? Small groups?) and what to call it (Splash, Funky, Youth Group, Spew?). Add to this that youth ministers are often working with a team of leaders who are younger than them, and a ‘congregation’ who are all younger than them, and we end up enjoying being at the top of our own little empire.

So, is that why we have big egos?

Is that why we’re not that good at working cooperatively together?

Is that going to be a problem in the way we do our ministry and what we’re modelling to others.

Hmmm…

Calvin's wisdom for preachers and those who listen to them

Leading the service at church this morning I included various elements from John Calvin's liturgy and theology of church in honour of his 500th anniversary last Friday.

I used this quote from the Institutes - some wisdom for preachers and those who listen to them: "when a puny man risen from the dust speaks in God's name, at this point we best evidence our piety and obedience toward God if we show ourselves teachable toward His minister, although he excels us in nothing" (Institutes 4.3.1)

For preachers: we are puny men (and women)! This seems especially significant for youth ministers who, standing in front of a group of junior teens who don't know any better, can easily pretend to be the coolest of the cool (those who can't cut it with their peers can always become youth leaders!). But Calvin reminds us of our puniness, risen from the dust, excelling others in nothing.

So, get over yourself and concentrate on doing your job - and what a job we have! Nothing less than speaking in God's name! Which is a privilege that should both give us a heavy sense of responsibility to speak God's truth from God's word, as well as giving us a boldness and courage to speak since it's not you but God himself who is speaking, God who uses us as his servant. Which must help for those times when our puniness is all too apparent (like when teaching year 9 Scripture).

And for hearers of preachers - let's pay careful attention; not just attention to a human preacher, but attention to whatever God has to communicate to us through His servant. Which also seems useful for those with a theological education (or part of one)who can very easily approach a sermon as a critic rather than a hearer.

So, Happy Birthday John. And thanks for reminding us of God's glory at work in human weakness.

Learning from another German... Dietrich Bonhoeffer this time

Have just finished another Queensland trip with first year College students.  Lots went on as usual, but this time I've especially been reflecting on what I've learnt myself about ministry through the whole experience - both from the tour experience of leading a temporary community for 10 days, and my reading (again!) of Bonhoeffer's Life Together.  

I think in the past I've used the language of 'delegated authority' for Christian leaders - Jesus' as Head delegates authority to leaders.  But I suspect that Bonhoeffer would not use the language of delegation, but instead talk of 'mediation' or something similar.  Our task as leaders is to so order the Christian community so that God's people would be led by Jesus and be free to serve Jesus in response.  I need to 'get out of the way' a lot of the time in order to leave God's people to the care and direction of God.  

Bonhoeffer has a challenging section in his first chapter on the difference between spiritual community and human community.  Here's the summary:

	Spiritual Reality	Human Reality
Basis of reality	the clear manifest Word of God in Jesus Christ	the dark turbid (muddy, opaque) urges and desires of the human mind
Basis of community	Truth	Desire
Essence of the community	Light (1 John 1:5, 7)	Darkness (Mark 7:21)
Fellowship	… of those who are called by Christ	… of devout souls
Love	The bright love of brotherly service, agape	The dark love of good and evil desire, eros
Order	Ordered, brotherly service	Disordered desire for pleasure
Subjection	Humble subjection to the brethren	Haughty subjection of the brother to one's own desire
Rule	Word of God	The man who is furnished with exceptional powers, experience and magical suggestive capacities
Binding	By the Word of God	Men bind others to themselves
Power, honour, dominion	Surrendered to the Holy Spirit	Personal power and influence is sought and cultivated
Government	By the Spirit	By psychological techniques and methods
Service	Naïve, unpsychological, unmethodological, helping love is extended towards one's brother	Psychological analysis and construction
	Simple and humble service	Searching, calculating analysis of a stranger

Knowing when Life Together was written makes me think of Hitler as the 'man who is furnished with exceptional powers, experience and magical suggestive capacities' who bind's others to himself.  Yet at the same time I'm very conscious of the potential for my own leadership to be aimed at binding people to myself rather than to Jesus.

Bonhoeffer's big point is that in spiritual community there can be 'no immediate relationship of one to the other.'  That is, the only basis of our relationships with each other is the work of Jesus; our relationships as Christians must be 'mediated' by Christ; we are brought together by Jesus, not by a common piety, or a shared interest, or any other human quality, and certainly not by any human power structure with the human leader at the centre.

Therefore, as a Christian leader 'I must release the other person from every attempt of mine to regulate, coerce, and dominate him with my love… I must leave him his freedom to be Christ's.'  It must mean practically that as leaders we're not looking to direct others to obey my own will, but to allow them to be led by Christ and his Word.  It means we will be more concerned to pray for others rather than looking for how we can become their confidante and helper.

In a slightly confusing passage Bonhoeffer asks whether a spiritual community should set aside any human distinctions like family relations or organisational roles (like Principal, lecturer etc)?  Though we might assume that established roles like this could undermine true spiritual community, Bonhoeffer says quite the opposite – that disregarding family and organisational roles will spell the death of a spiritual community.  Instead, a family (or a Bible college) is (or at least should be?) aware of the limitations of their power – a power to structure an environment that frees people to be led by the Word of God, but not a power to take the place of Jesus and his Word.

That's why short retreats (like the one we've taken College students on) can be dangerous – because we come away and may set aside the role distinctions of Loftus.  We can sustain this sort of community for a short time and not notice the influence of the human element in our community.  But then when we get back home and the role relationships kick back in we can feel that true spiritual community is not possible in everyday life.

As usual I'm left feeling challenged by Bonhoeffer's high standard, tired by the demands that this little book places on every part of my life – but then of course, the challenge isn't set before us by Dietrich Bonhoeffer, but by Jesus.  

Our final Bible reading at morning prayer this morning was from Galatians 6 and included the verse:  'So let us not grow weary in doing what is right, for we will reap at harvest time, if we do not give up' (v9).  That's the challenge then – to trust Jesus; to believe that when he calls us to live life in his Kingdom that there's no part of our lives that don't rightly belong to him and shouldn't rightly come under his authority; to trust that when he calls us to live lives of love that he's not setting us up for a fall; to believe that when he promises us life and joy, life in all its fullness, that he's not lying.  So we urged the students this morning to stay the course, to not give up the fight, to finish the race.  

And so that's my prayer for them, for all of us, and for me and my family.